Don’t get me wrong. I’m so completely grateful to be pregnant, to be able to conceive and grow beautiful healthy babies, I love sharing this journey with women and seeing new life bought into the world… But seriously sometimes pregnancy sucks. As a doula and a Mum of four children already I want to tell you, whilst pregnancy is beautiful and there is an amazing miraculous gift at the end its ok to honour yourself, your journey and to feel everything you are feeling. Some people cruise through pregnancy, in truth though most don’t. Whilst you think you can be mentally and physically prepared to become pregnant. The toll that it takes on your body and your emotions is something you are completely unprepared for, no matter how many times you’ve been through this journey. It’s often said, you teach what you need to learn. As a part of my job I sell affirmations for Pregnancy, Birth and Motherhood and as I was reading my way through them I felt so inspired and grateful to be pregnant. Until I came across one particular card and now it’s all I think about. The card reads: “Everything about pregnancy is beautiful. This journey has been enchanting, humbling and miraculous”. Right now, eleven weeks in… I call BS! On Wednesday I sat hunched over my toilet coughing, dry reaching, vomiting and even pee’d myself. I realised this week, my babe and I, we’ve reached new lows. It wasn’t enough to be constantly queasy all day, we had to ramp it up a little. The constant nausea, morning sickness, needing to vomit and headaches have all become too much and I feel like I can’t cope. I’m one of those “lucky ones”, that doesn’t really get sick when pregnant and morning sickness just equals feeling hungover all the time. But right now I feel so horrible, emotional and sorry for myself. I need to keep reminding myself that it’s all worth it in the end. That I need to be grateful as some people are so much sicker than this their whole pregnancies and some people spend their whole lives to trying to fall pregnant… and here I am feeling sorry for myself. As women and mothers we often feel like we need to put on a brave face, we can’t feel as though we are failing. Like somehow not coping with pregnancy makes us less of a woman or a mother. Often we are too scared to be truthful in how we feel because we don’t want to be ridiculed or seem to be weak. However, growing a human being takes super strength and it is incredibly hard. It uses up all of your body, mind and spirit. It’s ok, to not be ok sometimes. It’s ok to admit that it’s hard, exhausting and you no longer feel like yourself as you go through all these transformational changes. When you are pregnant you have no control over the changes happening to your body and it’s ok to need help. When someone reaches out to you to ask if you’re ok, be truthful. If someone offers to help, accept their help and if you need help don’t be afraid to ask for it. You don’t need to suffer in silence. You have many people in your life who love, care and support you and would only be too happy to help, if you’ll be so kind to let them. The journey of becoming a mother so many women have faced. We have all felt the varying emotions that come along with being pregnant. From suffering and sadness, to joy, love and happiness. I want you to know that you are not alone, we’ve all been there, and we want to help you in your journey making this transition as easy as possible. Just like sometimes pregnancy sucks, so is being a mother. If you can build an amazing support network whilst your pregnant, easing into your new mumma role will be so much easier with those people around you who love and support you and will pick you up, when you feel as though you can’t go on.
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